I’m one of four siblings and I’m the ONLY one who helps with our parents. Dad had a stroke last year and mom has arthritis so bad she can barely cook.
Every time I bring it up they’ve excuses. The resentment toward my siblings is eating me alive.
I’m one of four siblings and I’m the ONLY one who helps with our parents. Dad had a stroke last year and mom has arthritis so bad she can barely cook.
Every time I bring it up they’ve excuses. The resentment toward my siblings is eating me alive.
I could have written this post word for word. What finally helped was having a formal family meeting — not casual, an actual meeting with an agenda. I listed everything I do in a week for our parents. When they saw it in writing, two of my siblings stepped up.
the resentment is the hardest part. i found that my anger at my brother was actually making my caregiving worse because i was constantly stressed about TWO things
Even if siblings won’t help in person, they can help financially. My sister lives across the country but she pays for a home health aide 3 days a week.