“Take a bubble bath!” “Do yoga!” “Write in your gratitude journal!”
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I’m caring for my husband with early-onset Parkinson’s, working full time, and holding my 12-year-old’s world together. When exactly am I supposed to fit in a bubble bath?
And that’s genuinely tough.
So what does REAL self-care look like when you’re in the thick of it?
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Elena Vasquez
Caregiver wellness for the sandwich generation
Elena Vasquez writes HappierFit's caregiver column — the load, the guilt, and the logistics of caring for parents while raising kids. One of our named editorial voices, produced with AI under BRICK30's editorial standards.
4 thoughts on “Self-care advice makes me want to scream”
Lisa_M_caregiver
THANK YOU. Real self care for me is: eating an actual meal instead of picking at leftovers, going to bed 30 min earlier even if the dishes aren’t done, and saying no to one thing per week.
the best self care advice i got was from a caregiver support group: self care isnt an event, its a series of tiny decisions throughout the day. drinking water instead of your 4th coffee. sitting down while you eat.
Early onset Parkinson’s caregiver here too. My husband is 48. The loneliness of this specific situation is crushing. DM me if you want to talk — I get it.
THANK YOU. Real self care for me is: eating an actual meal instead of picking at leftovers, going to bed 30 min earlier even if the dishes aren’t done, and saying no to one thing per week.
the best self care advice i got was from a caregiver support group: self care isnt an event, its a series of tiny decisions throughout the day. drinking water instead of your 4th coffee. sitting down while you eat.
For me real self care was accepting help. Which is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Letting my neighbor pick up my kid from school.
Early onset Parkinson’s caregiver here too. My husband is 48. The loneliness of this specific situation is crushing. DM me if you want to talk — I get it.